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leila · Brisbane forums AdWakerleyt Joined: 27 Mar 2004 Posts: 207

just one sentence answer :

Long Distance Relationship NEVER WORKS!!
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Marrian · Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 9:58 pm Post subject:

on my personal view, cool off is just letting your partner to have an ample space and time if they feel that their relationship become suffocating! Allowing yourself to think and evaluate what's happening...On the ortherhand, breaking up is cutting every thread of your relationship.

cool off is just a pause, a comma in a relationship while breaking up is period.

COMMITMENT requires devotion and love. This is the essence of a relationship. You will never feel you are just forced. Cuz what you did is unconditional.

I think it's not advisable to play around and wait for the what if's and how if's... the precious potencial partner might stealed by someone else... who basically believes in commitment...you will never know.

ANYBODY here who has personal,if not inspiring, juz reliable experience with long distance relationship?
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yurki500 · Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 10:15 pm Post subject:

Marrian,

yes, I do, and they do not work.

Where is that person when you need them most? At the end of the phone does not cut it. You are out with your friends and there g/f's and or b/f's and you are by yourself! where is he/she?

where are they when you have a bad day at work, to share you highs and lows? when you go out and see something, where are they?

Sorry, it does not cut it. Love is strong, they may say that "bsaence makes the heart grow fonder", but sorry, if you have nobody to turn to, where is your other half. Face reality!

Marrian · Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 10:19 pm Post subject:

thanks for the sensible opinion. got a good point.
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yurki500 · Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 10:30 pm Post subject:

Marrian,

let me ask you something. being married is out of this equation, ok. So assume you are not married but in a relationship.

You go out one night in Kedron or Brisbane, and you meet someone who you think is really nice and you hit it off with him. You get on great, what about your b/f in the other country?

This guy can spend time with you, do things with you, share thoughts and feelings with you! Share your highs and lows, you see where I am coming from?

Marrian · Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 11:12 pm Post subject:

you're pretty much understood! I gonna give you another medal as Victory did!

nyway,what a scenario!

Well, i think i need to give up if and only if the fire of love has gone. Cuz if you considered yourself COMMITED you can't let go of this invisible tie, the bond which will always remind you that you are already 'TAKEN'. Just wishing my partner thinks the same way.

still i wanna play dumb, lemme ask this question. thinking of those hundred of married peeps having undefined realtionship, those guys and gurls cheating with their partners(bfs/gfs) back home and the broken relationship and promises.... how difficult is it to resist temptation here?
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RiFQa · Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 1:26 am Post subject:

[color=red]Desire is Desire....WHEREVER you go....The sun will not bleach it, nor the tide wash it away..[/color]

In my opinion...you gotta live ur life & do what makes u happy. Havin sumone on the other side of the world...can make u happy at times, but when u need that person to physically BE THERE...it only leaves u feeling empty.

LOng distance requires an insane amount of willpower Laughing

& i always think "What if im passing by an amazing opportunity or person?" i think its best to just have a clean break before any departure to a faraway place. if you're meant to get back together again...it will surely happen. Also if your in a long term relationship..maybe its a good time to hav a look at what you've been missing. i guess it boils down to what type of person u are..an opportunist? Wink

or are u the type who chills in a comfort zone? Cool

ziajaveds · Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 4:59 pm Post subject: it never works

DEAR SWEETY

I SHALL TRY TO SHELL IT IN FEW WORDS THOUGH PRACTICAL

i lost my 10 years love, on being long distance for two years.
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