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cadmus · Brisbane Forums Frequenter Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 165

yep, thats true... i have seen my Colleagues throwing parties whenever their families go out...but i think thats the end of it...they dont do nething else...and i think its justified to do so...everyone misses their bachelorhood days...so what if they have some nice time with their friends the way it used to happen in college days...they stll love their families...
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mylunarcry · Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 11:33 am Post subject:

what kinds of temptations are there that we should be prepared for? usually if the man is in brisbane and the girl is left in her country that's more difficult. are there people out there who would stoop so low as to attract someone even though she knows that guy has a gf back home?
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constantine · Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 12:06 pm Post subject: once maybe twice not really

you know...for me...it worked out...but for 8 months she and i were visiting each other back and forth...(of course the distance wasn't much...4 hours flight away...diff countries though)...speaking from personal experiance...its real hard...and the fights you have over the phone...the amount of time you take making it upto the person...the dissapointments/anger/hope/love/frustrations...are like a rollercoaster every day...so my typical day would go like this Very Happy

....it's real hard and you have to be Budda himself to actually not react to little things irrationally...for what it's worth...it did work out at the end!!

mylunarcry · Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 8:06 pm Post subject:

thanks. that helps somehow. what i wanna know now is, where have some relationships failed? so that i can be prepared?
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constantine · Posted: Tue Nov 08, 2005 7:47 am Post subject: sometimes it does work out

hey dont give up hope though...sometimes it does work out...in my case it did...after 8 months...she did move for me...we stayed honest to each other...sure there were a lot of temptations...as always will be...but the only advice i can give you is...COMMUNICATION...its the key...you have to talk it out...and when you are angry/frustrated/ready to slam the phone...talk some more...but dont let silence do the talking...as thats what kills it all...knowing is better than not knowing and imagining senarios...and hey, as in my case...if you are in nearby countries...it helps heaps...!!send letters...old fashioned way...flowers if possible...and get a inexpensive phone plan!!!... Very Happy

...coz you'd probably run up quite a bill!!
hmm on the flip side...where it can fail...lots of reasons...
1>temptation...temptation
2>not being true to each other
3>wasn't a strong one to begin with
4>you need physical presence (for all the hugs/kisses and fights!!)
5>any old excuse can set it off...if you live far off...
6>excuses are endless...if you want to create them
7>maybe its too early for anyone to really commit?
...as i said the list can go on and so can the excuses...but can you go on without him...or vice versa?....

Rosie · Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 2:30 am Post subject:

Very nice words and for you im happy it worked out,,,, but honestly if a woman or man for that matter was offering themself up on a plate to you and your partner was out of sight ...your telling me you would decline???
Its just ..for me i would have trust issues and would not be able to keep a long distance romance going.....
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constantine · Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 6:07 am Post subject: Home alone

hmm...rosie...to answer your question...i love the "chase"...rather than dealing with the consequences...so yeah i would flirt/charm...but leave it short of seducing...seems to work for me...and i walk away feeling like it was all innocent fun...has happened that people have been receptive towards more than flirting...and when you're at a club...drinks are flowing...its hard to keep it all in prespective...but as i said earlier...i did go and visit my gf...at least once a month...so it wasnt too bad...but i will agree...if one is really doing the long distance relationship over phone/email/letters...it can be really tough...but i've had another mate of mine...whos done it successfully...the idea is to get so "pished" ...that you get thrown into a cab and all you can remember is to go to bed!!! ALONE ...had to pay the cabbie soo many times for that ungrateful cad!!!

BFG-9000 · Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 8:31 am Post subject: