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aduberdu
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| Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 10:42 am Post subject: |
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| cadmus wrote: |
nice article...got ot through mail from somone....chk it out....related to the topic i guess
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last,
that never
become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching
about what
assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is deWakerleyated
to those
guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves
to
tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring
pats on the
back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department
stores. This is
in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how
cute/beautiful/smart/funny/fun their female friends are at the
appropriate
moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support.
This is in
honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with
honest
concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every
facet, from
her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female
friends back
from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door, for
the guys
who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy
male
population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments
but give
them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game
where the
rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend
material but
somehow don't end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are
overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys
who are
manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone,
and when
you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting
two
sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you
thought
her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all
ok and
she shouldn't worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted
the best
killing spree you'd ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor
that
romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive
person in
the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had
nothing
against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her
concoct a
counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time
she didn't
have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing "serious"
between
the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the
beer was
awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of
reckless
teasing by announcing to everyone: "oh, but we're just friends!" And
even
though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego,
you went
anyways. Because you're nice like that.
The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps
more
disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they
should. And I
wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't. From what I
have
observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at
other
schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that
many girls
are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they
just want to
date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say
irrational,
confusing things such as "oh, he's too nice to date" or "he would be
a good
boyfriend but he's not for me" or "he already puts up with so much
from me, I
couldn't possibly ask him out!" or the most frustrating of all: "no,
it would
ruin our friendship." Yet, they continue to lament the lack of
datable men in
the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to
sympathize
and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like
that are
beyond my ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection
breaks down
between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I'm
going to sleep
with this complete a#s now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the
nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn't last forever. There are
definitely
many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they
should be
dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is
finding
those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice
guys. You
know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself
described as
ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs
your
patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your
party
escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty
smile. For all
the crazy, inane, bsaurd things you tolerate, for all the situations
where you
are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement,
and my
gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and
your well
deserved vinWakerleyation is coming |
man i gotta admit thts fuckin true....its all true.......way to go dude....way to go
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kelliy
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| Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 12:46 pm Post subject: |
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I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals :)
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something  ). He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end.  |
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Defo
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Joined: 24 Nov 2005
Posts: 159
Location: Brisbane
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| Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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| kelliy wrote: |
I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals :)
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something ). He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end. |
I know   The intuition of a girl is to seek for a man who can take care of her children. ''Bad boys'' arent capable doing that... |
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kelliy
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| Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Exactly Defo. |
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Defo
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Fraad
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2006 3:43 pm Post subject: |
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| but that only comes at the more mature stage of looking for a life long partner. when ur in your late teens or early 20s and all you want is fun (i really mean fun this time haha) nice guys do get left out ... |
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kelliy
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2006 4:41 pm Post subject: |
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| Sorry Fraad, not everyone is like that. |
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Defo
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2006 5:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Fraad wrote: |
| but that only comes at the more mature stage of looking for a life long partner. when ur in your late teens or early 20s and all you want is fun (i really mean fun this time haha) nice guys do get left out ... |
As I am a nice guy ... I can say that aint true |
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